Today is beautiful. Royal blue sky and the hills and valleys have taken on a vivid shade of green. There’s a peppering of spring in the air, nature’s trailer for the most exciting season of the year.
Gratitude is such an important part of life. No matter how many limbs you have, how many talents you boast or women there are hanging from your every word.
Gratitude isn’t something you have to give. Gratitude is an inherent asset, a beautiful gift that actually gives more than it receives.
Try saying thanks for everything you have. Jump a couple of minutes from your rigorous schedule every day. Think about your friends and family, of what makes you smile, and the gift of life. We all have THAT, right?
Practising gratitude puts everything negative into perspective. When was the last time you gave a heap of time to your loved ones? Giving gratitude for these cherished influences on your life will help you focus on the important things, and you’ll be surprised how easy it becomes to devote a little more space to those who love you most.
Is part of the problem with finding more time to spend with your favourite beings, down to effort or compulsion to act? Are you looking more from Team You and the Other/s?
Instead of thinking what they can do for you, concentrate on what you can give back. Even the hungriest of achievers, and greatest of sex counsellors (speaking personally) knows giving is way better than receiving.
I like to think of successful partnerships a little like P2P. For the non-nerds out there it’s a simple syndrome: you have a file. To share that file you have to open up your computer and throw the file down the pipe.
As you gain a reputation for sharing files, you get to receive
them more quickly.
Get the idea? Give, give, give and you’ll get much more in return. Noone wants a one-way relationship but it’s so easy to slip into habits that would have put you in the bin when your other half was drawing up a wish list for a potential squeeze.
Talking lists – to get the most out of your beautiful twosome, draw up a list of things you’d look for in your perfect partner. Do the same for the habits of someone who repulses you. If you can’t think of such a character, let me know and I’ll give you some ideas…
Narrow down the ‘perfect’ list to the five greatest assets. Do the same with the ‘not so perfect’.
If you’re betrothed, figure out which of the top five in your ‘ideal partner’ wish list figure in your present beau. Match up?
Before you jump to any rash conclusions and we see a mass desertion from relationships the world over, think this:
To get the things you want from your partner or wannabe other half, you need to demonstrate them yourself.
Clear? If you’re looking for someone giving and playful, don’t act the stingy bore. It’s a two-way thing, right? How’s someone with such wonderful talents going to put up with YOU otherwise?
Giving and sharing. Find the perfect balance and it’ll be the spring of your love life, sooner than you think.